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We know by now that living through the Covid-19 pandemic has changed the way we approach dating.

For one thing, we’re far more open to both video dating and outdoor dates – even a stroll around the park will do.

Lockdown life has also made us more keen to settle down and form speedy connections, resulting in the turbo-relationships trend.

Part and parcel of that high-speed connection is a smaller trend, which dating app Badoo has termed honesty-bombing.

Don’t worry, this isn’t as threatening as it sounds, and isn’t a warning sign in the vein of love-bombing.

Instead, honesty bombing describes the act of being super upfront. Rather than playing the pre-pandemic dating game of trying to present yourself in the best way possible and sweeping your baggage under the rug, people are now being entirely honest from the get-go.

Why? It’s all to do with a desire to no longer waste time. After a year of coronavirus, we simply can’t be bothered with all the faff of creating a perfect persona – being entirely transparent about who you are and what you want is the way forward.

Research from Badoo found that 69% of single people are done with game-playing, while 72% say they’re emerging from lockdown ready to be more honest and upfront.

And 82% said they’re keen to be totally open even on a first date.

This means that acceptable first-date conversation topics have changed. There’ll be no more small talk – top subjects now include vaccines, mental health, and views on having children and getting married.

We don’t have time to waste playing games (Picture: Getty Images/iStockphoto)

Natasha Briefel, UK brand marketing director at Badoo UK, said: ‘Thanks to online dating, people have been able to continue making connections throughout lockdown, and they’ve had the time to really think about what they want in a partner.

‘As IRL dating returns, one of the biggest positive impacts from the pandemic we expect to see is people being much more open and honest with who they are and what they want from a relationship.

‘Not only that, but also in terms of the simple things that help to move relationships forward, such as telling someone you like them, or being upfront about why you might not want to see someone again.

‘Honesty is so important when it comes to dating, online or IRL, and at Badoo we believe everyone should be unapologetically themselves, and be kind whilst doing so – honesty bombing is a real positive to come out of the pandemic and something that we hope all daters take in their stride.’

Now, Natasha isn’t wrong about honesty being a great thing. The less lying, the better.

But it’s worth proceeding with some caution when it comes to putting it all out on the table.

When you’re spilling your deepest secrets on the first date, this can speed up a sense of intimacy… sometimes too quickly.

Remember that it’s okay to keep some things private at first, and don’t share things if you’re going to feel absolutely rubbish for having done so if the early dates don’t pan out.

You’re allowed to take things slow, basically, and you shouldn’t feel pressured to expose your deepest emotional wounds the moment you meet someone you fancy.

Move at a pace that feels comfortable, try not to rush, and make sure the post-pandemic pressure to lock down a romantic partner isn’t clouding your vision.

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Get in touch by emailing MetroLifestyleTeam@Metro.co.uk.


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