Like it or not, virtual dating is a huge thing right now. So whether you’re using dating apps to meet new potential partners or considering entering into something a little more ~romantic~ with someone you already know, chances are you’re doing a lot of messaging. Dating apps have found the amount of time people spend messaging their matches has increased, and say this means people are having deeper, more meaningful conversations. So at a time when loads of us are stuck in a perpetual messaging stage of dating, women are sharing the red flags and dealbreakers that come out during the “talking” bit.
1. “Mind games. What I loved about my husband is he didn’t care how much he texted or called, just because he enjoyed talking to me and wasn’t afraid to show it.” [via]
2. “Talking shit about an ex. It’s fine to mention reasons for breaking up (she wanted to get married, have children and I wasn’t ready), but be respectful. If he calls her a b*tch, it just lets me know how he might talk about me one day.” [via]
3. “Anything that even has a whiff of sexism or racism to it.” [via]
4. “Trying too hard. It sounds mean but a guy genuinely killed my interest because he kept trying to change himself to fit what he thought I wanted. I love and value sincerity.” [via]
5. “When they’re incapable of making full conversations. People who constantly ask ‘hru’ or ‘wyd’ again and again make me lose interest VERY fast.” [via]
6. “Not asking me questions. It shows me they’re not genuinely interested in getting to know me. I ask questions. I like it when it’s more conversational.” [via]
7. “Taking way too long to actually meet up, after weeks of texting/calls. Not sure what they’re waiting on.” [via]
8. “Being condescending and thinking that they know everything better.” [via]
9. “Being boring or being negative about everything, I need some positive energy in my life.” [via]
10. “One time in the talking phase I sent a Snapchat to a guy in which I was wearing a tank top, he used that as an opportunity to ‘compliment’ my ‘meat pillows’ and then spent the rest of the morning making weird, overly sexual comments. I don’t think I’d ever lost interest in someone so promising so fast. I’m not a prude, I’m not against sexting or anything. But he kept pushing it, even when I tried changing the subject multiple times. Also… meat pillows???” [via]
11. “When I disagree with a thought that’s shared and they get defensive instead of listening to the opinion that I’m sharing.” [via]
12. “If I’m putting in more effort than the person to keep the conversation going. Especially if I always have to initiate or say, ‘Hi’ first.” [via]
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