“I was living with a housemate and I fell asleep holding his dog’s paw. When I woke up, he said ‘It’s time for you to get a girlfriend’.”
This was the beginning of the unlikely love story between Daniel Burt and his future wife, Clementine.
The moment gave Daniel, the managing director of Golden West Brewing Co, the push he needed to sign up for Tinder in 2017.
Meanwhile, architect Clementine had been on the hamster wheel of online dating apps for several years and was “disillusioned” with the process when she haphazardly right-swiped the beer enthusiast.
Though they could have never foreseen the path that lay ahead, the couple became one of a growing number of Perth singles who have tied the knot after meeting on the modern-day courting platforms.
They wed in their Subiaco backyard earlier this year, laughing at the serendipity of the relationship that almost didn’t eventuate.
Here, the Burts reveal the crucial early interactions that took their Tinder match to a eventual marriage.
The first impression
While both admit they were on the app looking for a serious partner, Clementine had grown tired of dating when she and Daniel met.
“After two years of being on it and having some dud dates, I realised a lot of people aren’t taking it seriously,” the 31-year-old says. “At that time, I didn’t know anyone who had met their partner online, so there was a bit of a stigma around it.”
However, Daniel, 35, had heard of success stories among his friends so he sent the first message after being drawn in by Clementine’s sunny profile photo.
“For me, it was her smile,” he says. “If someone is smiling in all their photos, then that’s an instant swipe.”
But Clementine wouldn’t just be won over based on images alone.
“There needed to be a little substance behind their bio, like they had thought about it,” she says. “It didn’t have to be really serious, but there had to be some information or something unique.”
Daniel adds with a grin: “My bio was written by my landlord’s girlfriend, who is 20 years my senior. She wanted to write the bio she would have said yes to.”
Neither Clementine nor Daniel were big on messaging, so they agreed to meet within a few days of the initial exchange.
In real life, neither thought it was a good match — at first.
“It’s not like sparks were flying,” Clementine recalls. “We went to PICA Bar and then Alabama Song, which were great places, but it just wasn’t a great date.”
Daniel adds: “I told myself I wasn’t going to talk about beer or country music, and that’s all I spoke about.”
“And he doesn’t even listen to country music often,” Clementine laughs.
Because they realised they had mutual friends, they decided to give it another go — though Daniel “almost cancelled” the second date — and then went to an art show, which was when things changed.
“I was more keen after that third date,” Daniel says. “It was more fun, and Clementine came out of her shell.”
Making it official
Once the walls started to come down, it was an easy, natural progression, says Clementine.
“We started meeting each other’s friends and that was a key moment, because you can tell a lot about someone by who they surround themselves with,” she says.
And then came “the chat”.
“Clementine referred to me as her boyfriend quite early on, and then tried to backtrack once she realised what she said,” Daniel says.
“I asked if she was seeing anyone else and she said no, so we had that awkward midnight conversation and made it official.”
Though Clementine was hesitant to admit where she met her beau for some time, she would now encourage others to seek romance through dating apps.
“You just have to be open and honest about what you’re looking for,” she says. “Shared values are the most important thing. Everything else fades away after time, but if you have the same values, you can reconcile your differences.”
Daniel loves telling others how he and his wife connected.
“I am quite proud we met on Tinder, because it gets such a bad rap,” he says. “It’s unfair, because it just comes down to the people on it and who you respond to.”
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