Socially Distanced Dates: Why Pandemic First Dates Are Better | #tinder | #pof | romancescams | #scams

In the Before Times, your standard First Date followed a fairly conventional, if unimaginative set-up: get a beverage with your crush, whom you met online or in real life, and sip it across a table from them while sussing out compatibility. Then came the pandemic, and single folks were pretty much relegated to sexting, or video dates. Now that states are phasing out of lockdown, to varying degrees, actually meeting up is no longer completely out of the question. But given that the U.S. is absolutely not out of the woods, and maintaining social distancing is still a really good idea, first dates have still changed. Rather than defaulting to a bar (literally about the worst place you could find yourself right now), interested parties now meet up outdoors, in masks, for socially-distanced park picnics, roof hangs, and hikes. Navigating this new frontier brings with it a new set of logistical difficulties and awkwardness—but also, according to many daters GQ spoke to, a surprising and refreshing focus on the date itself, as opposed to what it might lead to.

Some say the pacing is different, with dates unfolding organically, and lasting for hours because now there’s nowhere else to be. As Brandon, a 31-year-old in LA, who recently smoked separate blunts with a Tinder date on his roof, put it, “People have more time on their hands. Feels like high school, hella long conversations.” And whereas normally, you might anticipate an end-of-the-night hookup, with pandemic-era dates, you could say it’s more about the journey than the destination.

“On regular dates, there’s always this, ‘What happens next, does someone have to make a move?’ Taking out that aspect of it alleviates some of the pressure,” says Jack, 25, who met up with a Hinge date to drink rose for hours at a park in New Jersey, where they were both quarantined with family, then picked up pizza and ate it out of the trunk of his car, tailgate-style. “The endpoint is the actual date. You kind of enjoy it more.”

Katie Boyle, a 29-year-old comedian, appreciates the old-fashioned, slow pace of dates now. Boyle had been Facetiming and texting with a Hinge match for three months before the two finally agreed to meet up for a picnic—“he brought the Jameson, I brought the crisps, and we ended up hanging out for like five hours,” she says.

“It’s nice because you get to know the person first, before you get all confused with having sex,” says Boyle. “I think there is an element missing nowadays where we go too fast, have sex too quick, and it burns out.” Boyle also digs the mystery of the mask. “You can only see half of their face and you can’t touch. It is very surreal and also has a ‘forbidden fruit’ element—it’s kind of exciting,” she says.

When you’ve already become acquainted over the phone, you get to bypass the typical first-date small talk, and that can allow for a more comfortable, fun first hangout. “It took away a lot of the BS of a first date,” says Laura*, 31, who in late May had a picnic with a guy she’d texted with and talked to over the phone since matching in early April. “We’d already had a lot of those conversations, had some jokes between us, so the initial hesitation went away a lot faster than a lot of dates I’ve been on. Felt much more familiar a lot faster—like the third date at least.”

Because these dates often take place outside, without the distraction of a crowded bar, or live music, or a party—and with the element of physical flirting removed—you might figure out faster whether the chemistry is there, at least personality-wise. “It really is just you and this person, with no outside influence,” says Carla, 37, whose preferred style of pandemic-dating has been going on hikes in her rural Colorado town. With one hiking date, masked and six-feet apart on the trail, Carla says she could tell pretty quickly “we were not going to be connected emotionally.”

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