JOHANNESBURG – Sexual abuse of children is often carried out by individuals in positions of trust, making it harder for victims to speak out.
This is according to child protection expert Dr Shaheda Omar from the Teddy Bear Clinic.
Omar says these cases are rarely random, describing perpetrators as “opportunistic and calculated”.
“They follow a pattern of behaviour. There is often planning and grooming that takes place behind closed doors. It is not something that happens on impulse,” she explained.
According to Omar, perpetrators often build trust with both children and their families, sometimes offering help such as homework support or access to resources like electricity and Wi-Fi.
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“This creates a sense of safety and dependence, which is then exploited. The child may even believe they are cared for, which makes the betrayal even more severe,” she said.
She adds that communities often struggle to accept allegations when the accused is a respected figure.
“People look up to elders or authority figures. There is disbelief, and sometimes victims are not believed, especially if it is assumed they are not the first,” she said.
Omar says fear, shame and self-blame prevent many children from coming forward.
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“Children often feel they did something wrong. There is fear of not being believed, fear of blame, and stigma. This silence allows abuse to continue,” she said.
She stressed that parents and caregivers must take a more proactive role in protecting children.
“Parents need to vet everyone who has access to their children. Whether it’s a relative, a teacher, or a religious leader, there must be a level of scrutiny,” Omar said.
She also emphasised the importance of educating children about their bodies and empowering them to speak out.
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“Children must be taught about bodily autonomy and that they have the right to say no. They need to know they can speak out and that they will be heard,” she said.
Omar urged parents to always take allegations seriously.
“The message to parents is simple: Always believe your child,” she said.
She added that victims require ongoing support beyond the initial reporting of abuse.
“The journey does not end after disclosure. Children need protection, counselling and a safe environment where they feel validated and supported,” she said.
